You finally decided to take that journey towards leaving the 9-to-5 rat race. You’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts and joining support groups to help keep you encouraged. You’ve also been diligent about completing your tasks and projects. You are even so motivated to make a change that you've actually put in the grind time required to accomplish your goals. Things are going great! Your confidence is high and you can see the end game in sight.
Then one day it happens, you hit that brick wall. Hard! So, instead of being motivated, it becomes harder to concentrate. You are unable to ignore the little distractions. Tasks which would have taken you an hour or two to complete now takes days.
There’s no way of getting around it — you are stuck. Now, what? What can you do to get unstuck so you can get back to getting things done?
The truth is that we have all experienced these moments, but the good news is that how we handle these lulls will play a significant role in how we can quickly get back on track. With the holidays in full blast, I experienced this stuck feeling. It was hard for me to concentrate, and distractions like holiday gatherings and my son on winter break meant that I had to readjust my expectations of what I could and could not get done. I have to admit I was a bit disappointed in my inability to complete the daily tasks (which I clearly plaster on my wall). But, here’s what I realized, it’s important to just do something! Don’t worry about how small the task is. For me, it was the key to help me to get out of my slump. Build on small successes and start to build momentum.
As a part of my journey to create a life which allows me to have more quality time with my family, I would like to share my lessons learned for getting unstuck.
Lesson 1: Talk to others
If you are like me, your immediate circle pretty much includes your family and maybe a few select friends who have known you since birth. Unfortunately, there hasn’t been much opportunity to connect with other like-minded folks, who could help you get unstuck. This is where social media can be salvation. While face-to-face interaction is always golden you can use Facebook or LinkedIn groups to find the support you need.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Jim Rohn”
While, I believe Rohn was referring to the five people who you physically connect to. I do believe that with the prevalence of social media you can connect with people who are following their passion. Thereby, positioning yourself to engage with other like-minded souls who are trying to create a different life for themselves and their families.
Lesson 2: Stop trying to do too much
You wake up early, go to bed late, work, managing your family obligations. Overloading yourself and demanding too much of your time and effort is disastrous and will quickly lead to burnout. After all, you can’t be successful if you are running on fumes.
“Workaholics aren't heroes. They don't save the day, they just use it up. The real hero is home because she figured out a faster way. Jason Fried”
This is why it is important to take a step back. Maybe instead of waking up early and going to bed late, only wake up early. Fall asleep when your kids go to sleep and then wake up to get some work done. Keep a list handy so when you do have some time you aren’t wasting it creating a to-do list.
Lesson 3: Cut yourself some slack
We’ve all been there and in a perfect world, everything would run seamlessly, unfortunately, we live in the real world. There are bumps and hiccups at every turn. Sometimes taking a moment to step away from your computer and take a moment to appreciate all the things you have accomplished can do wonders. Realize it is a marathon, not a sprint and understand that these smaller tasks will strengthen your foundation must be present to ensure future longevity.
I will continue to share more of my personal development, as fulfill my passion which is to support other parents to hack life for what really matters. In the meantime, feel free to visit me at www.yasmeenhayes.com and join my mailing list for updates.